Reporting Safeguarding concerns to school
If you have any concerns about a child or family and you think that the Safeguarding Designated Officer ought to know, you can see me personally, call me or use the following email address to contact me:
I get automatic alerts if a message is sent to this address and can therefore pick it up immediately.
Safeguarding and child protection are two things that the school take very seriously.
Our Designated Officer(the person who deals with any referrals or concerns about Safeguarding of children in school) is Mr Pearse - Headteacher
Mrs Helen Clark and Mrs Debbie Allen are also trained Designated Officers and are the Deputy Safeguarding officers for Churchend School. If you need to contact Mr Pearse about a Safeguarding issue you can call, come in or e-mail on : firstname.lastname@example.org
Sometimes Mr Pearse, Mrs Clark or Mrs Allen are asked to attend meetings about specific children or families. If we feel it is more sensible to child's teacher to attend, then we arrange for this to happen. We always ask that meetings are held outside of lesson time to minimise disruption to class teacher lessons. Churchend has a 100% record of attendance at such meetings. Our school is always represented at any Safeguarding or Child protection meeting.
Safer Use of the Internet: A Guide for Parents
Explore sites and apps together
Talk about what might be OK for children of different ages. Ask your child what sites or apps they like. Write a list, and look at them together.
Be positive about what you see, but also be open about concerns you have: "I think this site's really good" or "I'm a little worried about things I've seen here".
Talk to your child about what you think is appropriate – but also involve them in the conversation. Ask what they think is OK for children of different ages – they'll feel involved in the decision-making.
Be aware that your child might talk about friends who use apps or visit sites that you've decided aren't suitable. Be ready to discuss your reasons, but recognise that they may not agree with you. Listen carefully for the reasons why.
Go through a final list of sites you both agree are OK, and work out when you'll next discuss it.
Ask about things they might see online which make them feel uncomfortable.
Talk about things they, or their friends, have seen that made them feel uncomfortable:
- Be specific. What exactly made them feel uncomfortable and why? Is it people or animals being hurt? Nasty comments about others?
- Link these to things in the real world, and explain that you're always here to protect and help them online and off.
- Reassure your child that they can always talk to you about anything that makes them feel uncomfortable.
- Show them how to report or block on the sites and apps they use. Use Net Aware to find out how.
- Tell them you'll help them to report anything upsetting they've seen, or to deal with online bullying.
Talk about how they can stay safe on social networks
Ask your child if they know:
- where reporting functions are
- how to block someone
- how to keep information private.
Show them how to do these things. Use Net Aware to help you.
Talk about online privacy, and being Share Aware. Explain that online behaviour – including sharing personal information – should mirror behaviour in person.
Explain that talking to strangers isn't always 'bad', but they should always be careful about what they share and sometimes people aren't who they say they are.
Reassure them that you won't overreact – you're just looking out for them
Explain that you understand the internet is a great place to be and that you're just looking out for them. Tell them they should speak up and not keep secrets if something is worrying them.
Reassure them that you're interested in all aspects of their life. Say that you'd like to talk about stuff they've seen online, sites and apps they visit, and that you'll share the things you've seen too. Recognise that they'll be using the internet to research homework, for example.
Be Share Aware: talk about what's OK, and not OK, to share online
Talk to your child about what 'personal information' is - such as email address, full name, phone number, address and school name - and why it's important.
Explain simple ways to protect privacy. For example, avoiding usernames like birthdates or locations that give away too much information.
Discuss images and photos, and what might be appropriate. Help your child understand how photographs can give people a sense of your personality, and that sharing the wrong kind of image can give the wrong impression.
Explain that it isn't easy to identify someone online. People aren't always who they say they are, so don't share personal information. If it's someone who genuinely knows your child, they shouldn't need to ask for personal information online.
Tell your child that if they're in any doubt they should talk to you first.
What to do if you're worried about your child online
There may be times when you're worried about your child's online safety. If you're unsure what to do, help is at hand.
We've put together some of the things that might be worrying you, and what you can do to help your child.
I'm worried my child is...
Sharing personal information…
Talk to your child about the things that they can safely share, like their interests and hobbies. And explain what counts as personal information, for example:
- their full name
- mobile number
- email address
Remind them they wouldn't share this information with people they didn't know in the real world.
They might be happy to share thoughts and feelings online with friends, but explain that they should be wary of doing this with strangers. Not everyone is who they say they are online, and sometimes things like your hopes and fears can be used against you by people you don't know.
If your child is worried they've shared too much, make sure you're able to help them if needed.
The NSPCC Net Aware guide to the social networks your children use has links to information that will help you and your child, including how to:
- remove content on different apps and sites
- block people
- report abuse
Being bullied on-line:
Recognise that online bullying might be just one part of bullying that's happening in their day-to-day lives, and there might be a lot of underlying issues.
- Reassure them that you can help to remove the content that's upsetting them and block the person who made the comments.
- Look at the negative comments with them and contact the provider to get them removed.
- Save the evidence by taking screen shots.
- Contact their school to let them know about the incident, if you think it's appropriate.
Find out more about keeping your child safe from bullying and cyberbullying.
Bullying others on-line:
If your child has been bullying others online, find out whether other children were involved and what part your child played.
They may not have realised that what happened was bullying. Tell them explicitly that this behaviour isn't acceptable and the fact it's online doesn't mean it's not upsetting.
Help them understand how what they've done feels. You could ask them how they think the other child felt, or how they feel when someone says unkind things to them.
Explain that leaving someone out of an online discussion or group can be just as bad as attacking them directly. Encourage them to apologise to the person involved and help them to remove the content.
Spending too much time on-line:
Agree what times your child can go online. For example, not going online just before bed time or in the morning before school.
Explain that you think it's important they do a variety of activities. You recognise that they enjoy being online, but you think it's important they do other things as well.
Discuss your family agreement and remind them why it's important. Use technical tools to help you reinforce online times. Many sites have timers that you can set, or you can set it up on the computer, mobile or tablet.
Make sure that you stick to what you've agreed and that you manage your own time online.
Dear Year 6 Parents
A month ago we sent information about the dangers of unmonitored internet for children with particular reference to Omeagle. With the increased use and growing competence of the children around internet use there are always more risks. They are still too young to make informed and safe decisions about some aspects of online issues. They do need to be monitored and constantly educated.
This term we have had some intances of Cyberbullying/ online bullying. We have tackled these with the children concerned. We would like all parents to be aware that it does take place and the numerous social media sights make it all to easy to carry out bullying without thinking.
We deal with it in the following way:
If it is a first offence then speak to the children and educate them about the effect they are having on the other child. They may also receive counselling as the bully often has " unmet needs" or Adverse Childhood Experiences that has cause this behaviour.
If it is a repeat offence the parents are then involved. Cyber bullying is easy to copy and so the evidence is always clear to present.
For the victum of bullying we also provide advice and counselling. The key is to teach them how to deal with bullies and to build resiliience.
We also teach all children to not accept bullying when they see it and we use a rule that is: Several Times on Purpose. If any child spots someone being unkind or annoying another Several Times On Purpose ( S T O P ) then they are told to report it immediately. We teach it as a life skill as in the future they may come across this in the work place and have to deal with it as adults.
Besides monitoring please be aware that if there are problems please screen shot copy and then email the evidence to us if we need to deal with anything. Please remind your children that if they do write anything untoward it is permanment as it can be copied. It can also be a criminal offence to do Cyberbullying- Section 127 of the Comunications Act 2003
If you need any advice please search on : www.bullying.co.uk or NSPCC